Self-worth is the opinion you have about yourself and how you value yourself.  This is the only element from the family pie that you can control.  Your relationship can add to your sense of self-worth, but you must be able to believe in yourself first before someone else can.  This can be titled as pride, confidence, or being secure about yourself and where you are in life. 

In most cases, a feeling of self-worth is proportional to how much one is going to give in a relationship.  If you are comfortable with who you are, you may have a high self-worth.  It is this feeling that you can channel into your relationship to help make your partner have the same self-worth.  How you treat the other and what you say to them can contribute to their self-worth.  Making motivational or supportive comments to your partner can give them confidence in who they are or what they are going to do.  You can help others build their own self-worth, but it is only they who can believe in their own self-worth. 

While this element can have a negative connotation, e.g., one being too self-confident or arrogant, it is important to note that the more you know someone, the better you may understand their feelings of self-worth.   Self-worth can lead to a more successful job, which can lead to a greater appreciation in life, which can thus lead to a more rewarding relationship, particularly if you feel you are getting everything out of a relationship that you are putting into it. 

Your partner can influence your sense of self-worth, but it has to start with you and how you feel about yourself.  There are things that your partner can do to increase or decrease your self-worth, but this element is based on your own confidence, pride, and belief in yourself.  This element also has a history.  Your own history can greatly influence how you complete this section of the worksheet.  At this point, I would like to remind you that the history is in the past, and in order for you to give your current relationship a chance, you have to start fresh.  Erase all those negative feelings of self-worth, if they are in there, and wash them away!  If you have ever wanted to feel appreciated in a relationship, now is the time to put it in writing and give yourself that new beginning.